Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo - He's just not that into you

There are books which opens our eyes and there are books which make us to understand what was obviously right there in front of us but from different reasons, we didn't care or believe too much what thats meaning and how important is for us. To have a clear picture of our relationship.
This book is addressed generally to women who just don't believe or don't accept that a guy is just not that into them despite of his louder actions or behaviour. Instead of listening to it, what many women do? They try to find excuses for their unsatisfied situations ! They refuse to see the explicit truth that lying in theirs face so they try even harder to get men's attention.
It's very funny to notice that the simple thought of '' he's just not that into you'' is the last to take into consideration. How selfish and stiff necks we could be ! To keep it short, if you're confused with a guy that send you mixed messages, then you may to conclude that he's just not that into you.



This book is easy to read, likable, Greg has a humorous way to tell you the nasty truth.

I really encourage you to don't believe everything you read, but when it comes to relationships, your time and your happiness, it's really helpful to pick up on these lessons given by experienced authors. You may be the exception of all the rules, but if not, are you willing to assume such a huge risk of climbing mountains without equipment ?

Now, as I usually like to do, I chose parts or key phrases from the original book

• '' If we want you, we will find you. If you don't think you gave him enough time to notice you, take the time it took you to notice him and divide it by half.''

• '' Guys don't mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a fuck buddy situation or a meaningful romance. Go find someone that lives in your zip code who will be rocked to the core by your deep conversation and model looks.''

•  '' He's just not that into you if - He's not asking you out - »« '' Don't let him trick you into asking him out.When men want you, they do the work.'' »«

• '' If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know immediately. He won't keep you guessing, because he want to make sure you don't gest frustrated and go away. ''

• '' When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you'd like us to be. I know it's an infuriating concept-that men like to chase and you have to let us chase you.''

• '' If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.

• '' He's just not that into you if - He's not calling you - »« '' If a guy you're dating doesn't call when he says he's going to, why should that be such a big deal ? Because you should be dating a man who's at least as good as his word.'' »«

• '' Men are cowards and they would rather wait until the end of time than give you bad news. For the record, a man who likes you wants to spend time with you.''
• '' Men are never too busy to get what they want.''

• '' He's just not that into you if - He's not dating you - »« '' Men, just like women, want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship starts to became serious. One way they do that is by laying claim to it. They actually want to say Im your boyfriend or I'd like to be your boyfriend.'' »«

• '' He's just not that into you if - He's not having sex with you - »« '' When men like you, they want to touch you, always. '' »«

• '' If a man is into you, nothing will stop him from being with you - including a fear of intimacy. He may run and get his butt into therapy if there's some serious problem, but he'll never keep you in the dark.''

• '' He's just not that into you if - He's having sex with someone else - »« If he's sleping with someone else without your knowledge or encouragement, he's not only behaving like a man who's just not that into you, he's behaving like a man who doesn't even like you all that much. '' »«

• '' Cheating is bad. Not knowing why you cheated is even worse. Don't date any man who doesn't know why he does things.'' '' Cheating gets easier everytime it's done.''

• '' He's just not that into you if - He only wants to see you when he's drunk'' - »« It ain't love, it's sport. Bad boys are actually bad.''

• '' He's just not that into you if - He doesn't want to marry you - »« '' Doesn't want to get married and doesn't want to get married to me are very different things. Be sure about which category he falls under.'' »«

• '' He's just not that into you if - He's breaking up with you - »« '' Guys don't do it if they can't live without you: they don't break up with you.''; ''These guys are able to exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to.'' »«

• '' Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You're deeply missable. :) ''
• '' Breaking up means not seeing them again, which also implies not seeing them naked again. It may be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it's still called breakup sex. No one has yet to remember it oh-my-god-the-sex?-was-so-good-we?got-back-together-again-and-lived-happily-ever-after-sex.''

• '' He's just not that into you if - He's disappeared on you - »« ''He might be lying in hospital with amnesia, but more likely he's just not that into you. No answer is no answer. Don't give him the chance to reject you again.'' »«

• '' Write the guy a really, really long letter, asking him every question you need to. Say everything you want to say. Call him all the names you feel like. Say something mean about his mother. And then- you guessed it- just rip it up.''

• '' He's just not that into you if - He's married (and other insane variations of being unavailable) - »« '' No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.'' »«

• '' You're still helping a man cheat on his wife. Let's agree you're better than that.''
• ''  If a guy is yelling about his ex'wife or crying over his last girlfriend, try to find someone else to take you to the movies.''

• '' He's just not that into you if - He is a selfish jerk, a bully or a really big freak - »« '' If you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy.'' »«

• ''There's never a reason to shout at someone unless they are in imminent danger. You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time. (You have to be nice, too).''
• '' You're exceptional, but not the exception. Thinking of yourself as the exception is what got you into the mess in the first place.''