Suggestions for people seeking love

Suggestions regarding Beauty

Look for a partner who is as physically appealing as you are. You should do everything you can to look your best when meeting someone you are interested in.

Suggestions regarding Character

You dont need exceptional skills or abilities to find love.
People who are warm, sensitive, and considerate, who, proferably, have a good sense of humor- and who also like us- are the best candidates.

Suggestions regarding finding love

Use the power of self-fulfilling prophecies. Treat your potential parteners as if they were exactly what you want them to be-sexy, exciting, attractive.
Make a conscious effort to make yourself as attractive as possible by improving the attractive parts of yours appearance and personality.
                     
                 '' To be loved, be lovable ''  - Ovid, '' The art of Love ''


Others suggestions

''The person who is similar to you in appearance, intelligence, attitudes, interests, emotional maturity, as well as background, is the person whom you are most likely to live happily ever after.
Once you have found someone who is similar to you in the important dimensions, look for someone whose personality complements yours in a way you find exciting and rewarding.''

''Use both the power of the reciprocity of love as well as the power of need satisfaction.
The best strategy with a promising candidate is to be attentive, open, warm, and pleasant. But most importantly, be sensitive to your partner's needs and respect his or her right to feel, think, and do things differently - even if you are convinced that your way of expressing care is the right way.''

''Do not hold back love waiting for the perfect partner. Giving love freely and generously to the less than perfect people who happen to cross your path can assure you of receiving many coins of love from the people around you.''

''Be aware of your love screens. Think about the two people with whom you were most in love. What do, or did, they have in common ? The quality, or qualities, they have in common says more about you than about them. The commonalities point to the screens you use for choosing a romantic partner.''


''People looking for love need to assess the full picture of their psychological, as well as physical, needs and determine which needs are most important.''
''While some needs are better gratified when complementary, such as the match between a person who likes teaching and a person who likes to be taught, other needs are better satisfied when both partners share them.''

''Take time for the wonderful task of remembering- with as much detail and clarity as possible- each and every one of the people with whom you have ever been passionately in love. Make a list of their most endearing traits - physical, emotional, behavioral - the traits that made you fall in love with them. These shared traits represent your romantic image. If you have hundreds of falling in love experiences and none of the people with whom you were in love showed any similarity to each other or the people who were significant in your childhood, it may mean you are falling in love with falling-in-love more than with a particular person.''
If your past love experiences have been frustrating, and you decide that you don't like the prescription of your romantic imaage, you have 2 main options: One is to avoid people to whom you are attracted and choose instead people with whom you are comfortable, people who can be close and trusted friends, but never bring you to either the height of passion or the depth of despair. The other option, is to take responsability for your romantic choices, analyze your romantic image, and try to turn it from a script for disasteer into an opportunity for growth.''

''Most people are not aware of the effect their childhood experiences with their parents have on their love relationships. Tragically, people who were unloved or even rejected as children continue to suffer in unsatisfying love relationships as adults.

''The first step to turn couple problems into opportunities for growth is to developing awareness. It starts with an exploration of the things that made the couple fall in love with each other, the things that are most problematic for them in each other, and the connection between the two.
The second step, and the harder step for many, is expressing empathy. The third step is behavioral change.''



Advice for good love: ''Don’t love those from far away.
Take yourself one from nearby.
The way a sensible house will take local stones for its building,
stones which have suffered in the same cold and were scorched by the same sun.''

― Yehuda Amichai '' Advice for Good Love '' in Love Poems.