How to tell if he's a sport fish or a keeper

Are you wondering what your guy that you're dating are looking for ? His actions don't match his words ? You end up mostly of time confused about he's into you or not or you just don't know how to read off his actions ? Well, Steve Harvey in his book ''Think like a man, act like a lady'' is clarifying this crew.

How to tell if he is a sport fish or a keeper:

     1. If his conversation with you is extremely superficial, and never seems to graduate beyond the surface,;he's sport fishing; if he genuinely seems interested in your needs, life, desires, and future, then he's looking for a keeper.

     2. If he laughs off your requirements and standards, then he's sport fishing; if he seems willing to abide by your rules,and actually follows through on them, then he's looking for a keeper.

     3. If he takes your phone number but waits longer than twenty-four hours to call, he's sport fishing; if he calls you right away, he's showing that he's genuinely interested in you, and is most likely looking for a keeper.

     4. If he takes you out on a date and lets you pay, or only kicks in his portion of the bill, he's sport fishing;if he pays the bill, he's showing that he's willing to provide for you, which means he's likely looking for a keeper.

     5. If he tells you he’s going to be somewhere at a certain time, and he consistenly shows up late without so much as the courtesy of a phone call, he's probably sport fishing; if he shows up when he's supposed to, he's looking for a keeper.

     6. If you never meet his friends, family, co-workers, or other people who are important to him, he's sport fishing; if he introduces you to his people, he might be looking for a keeper.

     7. If he keeps offering up excuses for why he can’t meet your friends and familly; he's sport fishing; if he agrees to go to the family barbecue or a social event where he will be ntroduced to family, friends, and co-workers, he might consider you a keeper.

     8. If he cringes at the mere mention of children, he’s sport fishing; if he's willing to meet your kids and shows up with gifts and can relate to them in a way that makes them comfortable with him, then he might consider you cand your kids keepers.

      9. If he does not have himself together financially, emotionally, and spiritually, he may be sport fishing; if he is capable of providing and protecting his potential family the way a real mal should, then he may be searching for a keeper.

     10. If he lobbies for an “open” relationship and says he’s cool with you seeing other people, then he's sport fishing; if he wants your relationship to be exclusive and he agrees to date only you, he considers you a keeper.

The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz

Another good book written by Don Miguel Ruiz, the master in the Toltec culture teach us four agreements. He said that we made in our life many agreements, but the most important agreements are the ones you made with yourself. These agreements will define your personality because you say who you are, what you feel, what you believe, how you behave.
So, if we want to live a life full of joy and fulfillment, we must break those agreements that are based on fear and embrace those agreements that comes from love.
Let's see the four agreements:


  1. BE IMPECCABILE WITH YOUR WORD

''Why your word ? Your word is the power that you have to create. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word.''
'' The word is not just a sound, the word is force!''
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Don't use the word against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
''Whatever happens around you, don't take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; there are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be victim of needless suffering.''

3. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
''The problem with assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST 
''Your best will depend on whether you are feeling happy and wonderful, or upset, angry or jealous. Regardless of the quality, keep doing your best - no more and no less than your best. Under any circumstaces, if you simply do your best, you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.''